“The love expert”
Helen Fisher is an anthropologist and biologist,
born in 1945 in the United States.
Fisher currently works as a professor and researcher at Rutgers University, New Jersey. She is an expert on love, sex and relationships. She has written books on issues such as the evolution, biology and psychology of human sexuality, on monogamy, adultery and divorce, on brain differences between genders, neural chemistry of romantic love and attachment, or the biologically basis of human personality types. Helen Fisher has studied why we fall in love with one person and not another, what happens when you start a relationship, why young people live together before marriage, and the future of relationships, what she calls “slow love".
Helen Fischer maintains that human beings have developed three brain systems for mating and reproduction: sexual desire or libido; romantic attraction or romantic love; and affection, or the deep sense of union with a long time partner.
“Love can arise from any of these three feelings,” explains Helen.
“Some people first have sex and then fall in love. Other fall in love with someone, and as a result have relationships. Others feel deep affection for someone who they have known for months or years; then circumstances change and they fall madly in love and have sex. But the three feelings are necessary: sexual desire was developed so that we would search for possible mates; romantic love was generated so that we could focus all of our mating energy on a single person during a particular season; and affectionate love appeared so that we could feel a deep bond with this mate long enough to raise children and form a team together".
Helen has studied marriage and divorce in more than 80 societies, adultery in 42 cultures, patterns of monogamy and desertion in birds and mammals, and gender differences in the brain and in behaviour.
Her best known books are: "Why him?" Why her?: How to find and keep lasting love", and “Why we love: the nature and chemistry of romantic love".